30 Days of Kink 

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play?  What significance does your attire have to you?

First and foremost, I 

do not wear my contact lenses when I know I will be on the receiving end of face slapping, golden showers

because that could ruin the lenses or scratch my corneas.  

Other than that, I wear clothes that fit & flatter my body.  My weight has fluctuated some the past year and I play a fun game of 

Let’s see what Fitz tonight 

but I love clothes and fashion and getting dressed is part of the fun.  

If I’m going to a themed party, I obviously go along with the theme.  If my Dom/play partner requests I wear something for him, I’m very accommodating.

30 Days of Kink 

Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities?  If so, how?  

I like to write, and I sometimes write erotica.  Not that I’m a well-known writer, just that it’s something I do 

for me 

more than for anyone else.

Why do you love me 

Just tell me why…is it because you think I’m 

as good as you can do,

so you tell yourself it’s love?  Is it because I’m here and at fifty years old you’re tired of looking for love so you convince yourself I’m it.  Is it that I have low enough self esteem that I’ll suck your dick if you pay me the slightest bit of attention and that’s what you really want, your dick sucked.

Or maybe you do love me and the problem is me, I just can’t believe I 



30 Days of Kink 

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

It’s hard to be honest (what’s to stop me from using a pic of a taller, slimmer, woman and saying I’m her) online?  

Not that I do that

just that I could do that, anyone could do that.  And by the same token it’s hard to trust what anyone else says online.  The man who 


he’s unattached might be typing that as his wife and kids sit in the next room.  

So yeah, I’m not promising to run across the country or the world for someone I type dirty to online.

30 Days of Kink 

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

How open am I 

with whom?

That’s what you really want to know.  I don’t call up my 73 year old father on Sunday and say 

Father, I’m a submissive who loves being whipped and lives for anal sex.

Ok, my parents are Catholic and strait-laced & I don’t speak so honestly with them.  But I 


tell prospective partners what I’m into, in no uncertain terms.  I’ll tell friends, my sisters, about the fact that I am a submissive, a Middle, a masochist.  It’s part of who and what I am.  

30 Days of Kink 

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?

I’m a heterosexual female, so I look for a male.  While his appearance is the first thing I notice, it’s not the most important.  It’s important that he be honest, trustworthy, reliable, good at communication, in control of himself and his own life.  That’s the sort of man I want to kneel before, that’s the sort of man I want to call Daddy.

30 Days of Kink 

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?

When I first realized I was into this, I thought I was the only one (this was before the Internet) & now I know there’s a whole vibrant community of like minded people.  The more I read & talk to people, the more open-minded I become about their kinks, about kinks that are not my own.  And becoming more open-minded is a really good thing.